You've probably heard the expression, "timing is everything." Well, it's true when it comes to being an effective communicator. A well-timed conversation enhances the likelihood of being heard and of reaching consensus. On the other hand, trying to open a dialogue at a time and place that is not conducive could render it difficult if not impossible to accomplish your objective.

Think about a past situation when an important eldercare conversation, which you initiated, went haywire. Perhaps Mom was distracted and didn't respond to your question, or Dad postponed the conversation telling you that he was too tired to talk. And who hasn't experienced a scenario in which another family members barged in — purposely or otherwise — when you were conversing with your elder, showing no respect and little concern for the discussion in progress?

When the timing of important conversations is not right, you know it. Nothing you say is well received and none of your suggestions are readily accepted. If you find yourself blaming elders for not listening or expecting them to be responsive when they are not relaxed or able to focus, then conducting a timing check might be in order.